Let’s talk about the “friend zone”. First of all, it is a generalization to talk about the “friend zone”. In the seduction community, when you hear someone speak about this, what they actually mean is being a wimp and doubting and not knowing what to do to get sexual with the woman in question. You see, being her friend is not per se a bad thing, but being in the friend zone sucks.
So, we need to define this dreaded “friend zone”. What is it? Have you ever had a friend you were “secretly” attracted to? Did you not know what to do and did you endure many situations like her ignoring you or treating you badly or complaining about the guys she likes, and yet, you got nowhere? Well, that’s the friend zone, nowhere.
First, we will talk about the dangers of the friend zone (it is like the twilight zone, but less fun). Then we will look at something that people in the friend zone never do (and people who are not in the friend zone always do). This will lead to an attitude that will change the way you approach the problem. So if you want to learn how to get out of the “friend zone” or you are just curious about what it is and how you can prevent it, follow me because here I have a simple yet powerful solution to your problem.
Now, what’s wrong with the friend zone? If you like to have a relationship with her that includes: no sex, her constant complaints about other guys, you calling her constantly and her never returning the calls (and answering from time to time), her treating you badly, and lots of other not-worth-it stuff, then the friend zone is just what you were looking for, and there’s nothing wrong about it. My guess is that you want something different with her, don’t you?
Well, let’s say it: girls are not good friends. Most girls will not do what your guy friends will do for you, and you shouldn’t either. Some guys treat girls better than their male friends, and that’s just plain stupid. Look at how women treat each other. Their not good friends to each other, and rarely are they good friends with men. They are fun to be with, and nice to have around, but that does not make them good friends. So, the thing is, maybe your mother or grandmother taught you that you had to be nice to women, but you can try it. Be nice to women and see the response you get. Then just be natural. You see, sometimes we do more than necessary, and if we were able to stop and just enjoy the moment and be honest, less people would have trouble with the friend zone.
The friend zone is just a configuration of your mind in relationship with your situation for a particular relationship with one woman. Do not over generalize. If you can change that configuration you can get out of the friend zone. So let’s see how this is done.
First of all, be direct. Not only in the way you communicate but also in the way you think and do things. Be straightforward.
Why hide that you like her? Is it an insult that you like her? Isn’t it more like a compliment, that you like her? You do not need to give excuses for thinking or feeling the way you think or feel.
Think about it. The longer you delay it, the harder it becomes, because you both get used to your relationship working in one way instead of another. Be honest about your intentions. Don’t turn around the pot. Don’t be too vague. If you like her neck, tell her, if you like her eyes, tell her. But only if you feel like telling her. You could always play a little with that and just let her work to know what it is that you like about her. Don’t just talk about sex and don’t talk just about sex. Talk about whatever you like, and get to know what she likes, yet, don’t just talk. Look, hear, smell, feel, touch, and play. Don’t take yourself too seriously. If you can allow yourself to be more direct and enjoy more the process of seduction, it will be easier for you. That simple.
Be the prize. Too many people let her be the prize. Let her call you, have high standards. Go out to meet girls, but remember that as beautiful as she might be (or gorgeous or sexy or whatever the case), you still do not know her “inside”. You do not know her personality, you do not know if she is good in bed…
Do not let her get all the “power”. Be powerful. Be potent. Make decisions, do things, instead of wondering, and doubting, just try and see and learn and grow by doing because it will become so natural you will not even have to think about it. “Be a man”.:)
Make her feel good with you. Often, people in the friend zone assume that they have a good relationship with her… they think that just by going out frequently (or constantly) with her, that will do the trick. I am afraid that that is not so.
Be fun. Look at people who are fun and ask yourself: “How do they do it?” What is it that makes someone (or something) naturally funny? Look for fun in your life (as well as beauty). If you can wake up some good powerful potent mental states in her when you are around, you are already heading towards the exit of the oh so dreaded friend zone.
And please, don’t worry about what you think she thinks. You do not know what she thinks so don’t care.
So, as you have seen, it is good to know how to avoid or get out of the friend zone if you want to have some control over your sex life. It is basic. Stop being indirect and start doing things. Try and fail, it is better than just theorizing about things, specially thins kind of things. Respect yourself. If you do not respect yourself you are not worthy of being attractive.
Oh, and have fun.